Saturday, August 2, 2008

What was I thinking

So, a while ago the possibility of an advice column was mentioned to my DH. I laughingly suggested a he said/she said format. Laughter and smiles ensued. The suggestion was forgotten. At least I thought it was. How was I to know that Bear, who forgets, well to be diplomatic, a lot, would remember this.
Well he did. And now I find myself part of an "advice" column. It's a cool idea. I just know me and I hope I don't get defensive when someone challenges my opinions. The whole world of blogging is new to me but I'm grateful that I've learned some about it. It's given me a new insight into Bear.
I used to think that I knew most if not all of the major things. WRONG!!! Being able to read his blog has opened me up to side of him I never knew existed. It sure has made our pillow talk interesting.
I've told a couple of my co-workers about the co-blog and it's funny, they are both worried about it. Worried that it could lead to problems for my marriage. Maybe I'm naive, but that really hasn/t occurred to me. I've told them, it kind of reminds my of our pre-canna teaching. We went for a weekend retreat. At the start we were each given a steno pad. There would be a discussion by the hosts followed by questions that we were to write our individual answers in the pad. Then we would exchange pads, read our partner's answers and discuss them. It was a wonderful experience and I left that weekend with a much stronger relationship.
I believe that as long as we keep talking to each other and have an honest respect for each others thoughts and ideas, that we'll be okay. I'm actually looking at this as an opportunity to make our marriage even stronger. I will say this, considering the things we do disagree on, our sweet pea will definately get a well rounded education ;)

2 comments:

Berlzebub said...

So, some people think that marriage should contain something similar to the Don't Ask Don't Tell policy? That could possibly explain the 50+% divorce rate.

They may find it interesting that atheists/agnostics have a lower divorce rate than other belief systems. I can't speak for all atheists, but the reason could be that another persons belief isn't as important to me as that persons actions. I don't love or not love a person because they have unfounded beliefs. I love (you specifically) because the person is genuinely good to other people.

Plus, our differences give us some really good pillow talk.

Midnight_RN said...

Ditto,
You telling me you're atheist definately through me for a loop but it's just a part of who you are: the wonderful man I married.
Can't say anymore here. Don't want your face to turn red;)